The trigger for this blogpost was a discussion that happened in a whats app group, thanks to this comic strip.. Some of us said that they are still facing this challenge and some said that they are over it and miss those days. I said that I don’t miss this as there are different things to experience with my 2 grown up boys 🙂


It was indeed wonderful a phase in life when the boys were in school when everyday was one roller coaster.. Looking back at those days that were not far before, it was frustrating at times and fun at others. But why did I say that I don’t miss it?


My mind rewound to a couple of periods in my life; thoughts of which brings in a smile in me but I don’t miss those times.. ‘Why?’ was the only question that kept lingering for the next one hour. After all that thought,  I stumbled on an answer that seemed convincing enough and gave me a feeling of ‘Wow, something like this is also possible.’


Bringing up the 2 boys was a lot of challenge and fun at the same time. Tried many things with them to understand where their interest lie.. Mistakes made in putting them in classes that was NOT their decision (of course I could say that they were too young to take a decision then :-)).. We were out of these classes in a year or two.. They wanted to try out a few sports and other classes.. Needless to say that these lasted longer and became a outlet for them, in more ways than one, which was one big relief.. The punching gloves and the basket ball took much of the brunt and continue to take it even now :-).. Every day was a trial and error and what worked one moment may not work another.. Worse still, what worked with the elder one WILL NOT work with the younger one and vice versa.. Brrrr, to keep thinking on my feet almost all the time was a challenge.. If one listened to emotions, the other listened to just data and logic.. And to juggle both, was one full time job.. I Stumbled, wobbled, fell flat, struggled, succeeded, arose, pushed – I went through all of these and more. But do I miss those days? My answer is a clear NO..


I was a corporate trainer for 12 years.. Worked with an institution (as I would like to call it) and people who helped me grow and blossom to what I am today.. It was 12 years of learning, fun, frustration, successes, failures and a time of discovering myself. Got opportunities to try out different roles. I was as quickly out of one as much as I was in it.. Did I burn my fingers or the institution burn its fingers, is anybody’s guess though I would say it was both, if I were to look at failures of mine. Did the institution benefit from me as much as I benefitted from being in it? I would say, without a pause a ‘YES’ :-).. Neither does the institution exist nor do I do many training programs today, having moved into a different field, though there is the odd training and executive coaching request I agree to.. When people ask me if I regret moving into another field, my answer was an instantaneous “No”. I have also wondered why I have no regrets. Stumbled, wobbled, fell flat, struggled, succeeded, arose, pushed – went through all of these and more. But do I miss those days? My answer is a clear NO.. I do miss though all that knowledge sharing, learning and meeting different people..


As I mulled over these to periods of my life, I thought and asked to myself, “Why am I not missing these periods?” Pat came the answer from within myself, “That’s because I have given all my time, energy, effort and commitment to what I did. I tried whatever options I could. I was completely involved in what I did. I could NOT have done anything more than what I did”. 


Do I miss anything? If I do, why do I miss whatever I miss? 


I do miss a few things. I miss them not because I don’t have it BUT because I don’t think I have enough of what I want.. This for me, was another piece of the jigsaw puzzle that fell in place. 

How beautiful and simple life seems as I read again and again, what is mentioned below…


I DO NOT miss something to which I gave all my time, energy, effort, commitment and involvement; and when I think I have given every bit of what I knew and learnt more to give what best I could..


I miss something NOT because I do not have them, because I don’t think I have enough of what I want..