The last four months on the road to recovery has been a period of introspection,
in the many moments of silence and quietness.
Minimal work to do and minimal moving around,
much time and space in the mind.
One thought that left a huge impact,
was that of – “I wish..”
I wish I can go back to that time (a certain period of time),
If I go back, do I want it in the same way that it was?
honestly, my answer is a no.
I wish I could go back to this relationship.
If I go back, do I want myself in the same way I was?
Certainly a no.
I wish I could go back to the way I handled the situation,
If I go back, would I have handled it in the way I think I will handle it now?
Definitely a no as the context in which I handled then, was that of then.
I wish I could go back and change the way I reacted,
Can I go back at all?
In my mind yes, in reality no.
I wish I could have decided differently,
Could I have, actually?
Decisively no because what was decided then, was the best decision that could have been made at that time.
I wish I had fallen differently that day,
Could I have?
The answer is hypothetical,
Well, what had to happen, had to happen.
If I didn’t, an understanding of myself would not have happened,
If I didn’t, a quietness would not have befallen,
If it didn’t, this blog would not have been written.
Is there then a use in the thought “I wish..”?
there perhaps is,
in consoling myself and in making myself feel better.
In reality however, “I wish..” is a gone moment – the past that can’t be changed,
“I wish..” is also a future moment hat has no certainity,
‘Now’ is in my hands,
to live,.. just live,
Life is for living the ‘now’. Just live.
November 25, 2023 at 9:06 pm
So lucidly explained Malathy!
I agree – live the now:)
I think the i wish moment helps us take better decisions in the now were similar things to happen again:)…. sometimes we do wish that we had done things differently isnt it?
December 9, 2023 at 10:54 am
Thanks Rajani.. Life is so many wishes packed in, isnt it?
November 25, 2023 at 4:49 pm
To look at the situation positively and to move on is the coping strategie.
To arrive at the coping situation we need to analyse through our but, if only, if it had not been, ect
So it’s a normal process before we adapt a strategy.
This is a Life long process if not fall something else would occupy the mind.
December 9, 2023 at 10:55 am
Thanks Maria.. Life is certainly a process 🙂